How to Get Over a Break Up

Dear Heartbroken Friend,

I want to reassure you again, you are going to get through this devastating time in your life. What has brought you to this site today? Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed with hurt and heartbreak? Maybe you are still in shock that your relationship has ended. Whatever stage you're at in the breakup process, I understand how you feel.

But, you cannot move forward until you take some simple but absolutely crucial steps to pick up the pieces of your broken heart and begin to put them back together. Some people spend weeks, even months after a breakup wallowing in their pain. They even get to a point where they being to feed it with love songs and old photos. There comes a point though when you must move forward. No doubt, today you've come to this site looking for this solution. The good news is that you're in the right place and the only thing you need to do right now is start to take the simple steps outlined here.

Give me 5 minutes of your time and you'll see you how to get over a break up using the totally effective method developed by working with thousands of people in your situation. It doesn't matter if you were the one that got left or did the leaving, your pain is real and can be healed.

Find out everything you need to know to feel better within 24 hours. It's true, you could be feeling a whole lot better one day from today. I work with people every day who describe their pain as paralyzing. But, after my program they have a whole new outlook on life.

"I distinctly remember calling my mother and telling her I needed to go to the hospital. I couldn't eat. I couldn't even drink water without gagging. I couldn't sleep. I wanted to believe I was sick with the flu, instead of facing the truth of a severe broken heart.

I left my husband after 10 years together and my entire mind and spirit was in shock. Although I knew it was past time to leave the unhealthy relationship, I didn't know it would be so very painful and difficult. I also didn't know that the pain would last for so long. I would wake up crying-with my pillow wet. I wasn't numb. I was aching. Everything hurt. I swear I could feel my insides turning.

The time I spent coaching with Michael reminded me why I left and more importantly, that I could make it on my own. His perfect mixture of confidence boosting and sympathy single-handedly saw me through to the other side. I didn't focus on the new type of man I wanted. I focused on me.

Michael helped me identify my true self, love myself, and establish safe and healthy boundaries. And wouldn't you know it? Once I mastered those difficulties, I only attracted like-minded people. I never again dated a jerk. And I never encountered another disrespectful man.

I am now building my future with a loving, supportive, and kind man. We share walks, religion, values, and a tiny studio apartment. My life is better than I imagined, but it's exactly how Michael saw it. He believed when I was too hurt to embrace my best self. I almost settled. I almost lost my moment."

If you're in as much pain as most of my clients about this break up, then I suspect your answer is no. But, I believe you can get there. In fact, I've seen it thousands of times. My name is Michael Myerscough, I've been working as a counselor and therapist for over 20 years and I specialize in the area of relationships.

As a result I've worked with thousands of people in the most extraordinary levels of pain due to heartbreak and I know how to fix it, fast. I can make you feel better very quickly but there is a catch, and that catch is this, I'm going to need you to apply yourself and do some specific work to help yourself right now.

In my experience time alone will not heal your heart. Some people can stay heartbroken for months and a select few can even lose years to this pain and misery. Don't get stuck in this state, you deserve to feel much better. One of the biggest mistakes you can make in trying to get over your own breakup is to simply wait. The old say that "time heals all things," is not true! You must take active steps to help your broken heart heal. And, I'm going to show you exactly the right steps to take.

You've probably got a lot of friends and family, who love you very much and they don't want to see you hurting any more. Chances are they all have an opinion and advice for how you should move on. But, my program is a proven systematic approach for becoming whole once again. You need the love and support of your friends and family. But, you need the help of a trained professional to really heal properly.

I want you to think of five separate occasions when your relationship with your Ex was anywhere between disappointing to brutally painful.

Take each one of these in turn and flesh out that memory much more than you may have in a while.

If you do this properly you should have five solid memories of your relationship that make you feel angry or miserable.

Every time you catch yourself dwelling on your lovely romantic picture, I want you recognize that it's making you miserable and focus on one of the five 'painful' memories instead.

It's a neat trick and if you manage to do it often enough and thoroughly enough you will retrain your brain. You will interrupt your tendency to over indulge in a memory that isn't healthy or helpful. I know that this may seem a little bizarre, 'focus on your painful memories to feel better' but give it a go. It's worked for all my clients and is one of my most powerful tools when done at its deepest level.

You see there is a chemical reality to getting over your ex which is leaving you in so much pain that it can sometimes feel unbearable, seriously, you are not making this feeling up. One of the biggest things you must do is stop seeing him as soon as possible. In the program, I take my clients through this process and it's really painful for a little while but then real healing can begin.

Please cut off all contact for a while. And by a while I mean months, not hours or days.

Someday soon I'd like you to sit down and design a three year vision that you can get excited by and begin to move towards. I take my clients through this step by step but if you're going to go it alone make some time today to sit down and think about just two of the questions I'd ask you.

If money was no object and your success was guaranteed, what would you want in your life?
If you decided to never again accept anything less than what you deserve what would you do?

Hopefully, once you've done this properly, you'll get a much better perspective on your life and its potential. If you're ever going to move forward, you've got to paint a favorable picture for yourself to want to move toward. Part of the reason you're still hurting so much is because you've only focused on the favorable picture of the past. But the past is gone! The future is quickly approaching and only you have the power to make it fantastic.

Important: What this program is not...

This is not a quick fix or a magic bullet, I'm not waving a magic wand for you here, as much as I wish I could.

This is not an easy process. You've got some work to do, given you've read this far though, I'm fairly sure you're capable of being honest enough with yourself to heal your heart.

I'm not interested in teaching you how to get back with your ex right now, it would be a disaster.

Right now you are lonely and in pain but as Greg Behrendt, one of the writers for Sex in the City, says, 'it's called a break up because it's broken'. Stop trying to get back what you lost, at least for now.

Don't even consider trying to fix it until you've fixed yourself or you are really going to get hurt!

Neither is it a 'all men are bastards and you deserve so much better' type rant. Relationships end for a reason and if you do this right you'll come out a better person able to build a better relationship.

You'll learn about university studies that demonstrate that heartbreak is real and explain why it hurts so much, that's encouraging because you're not alone and you're not crazy!

You'll understand how your body has created a totally natural yet very dangerous chemical imbalance inside you that's causing your mood to swing in such painful ways. Once you understand it you can take control of it.

I'll teach you how to manage those hormones more intelligently and immediately begin to improve your sense of balance. Once you begin to feel like yourself again, you'll have a whole new outlook on the situation.

I'll show you one simple thing you can do right now for 20 minutes that's scientifically proven to elevate your mood for the day.

You will learn how to recognize your needs and, more importantly, how to meet those needs in a way that allows you to feel loved and cherished even when you're single.

You'll understand the one simple but profound thing that, when you do it, I guarantee your whole life will change for the better, forever.

You'll learn to value one major skill you already have that you may be totally disregarding as a way of feeling better very quickly.