Relationship Killers: How To Ruin Your Chances of Getting Back With Your Ex

Trying to get back with your ex? Avoid this underhanded tactic.

You’ve been thinking about getting back with your ex. You might be wracking your brain for ways to pull this off. You’ve likely imagined all kinds of scenarios to accomplish this goal. You’ve scoured the internet for advice and angles to pursue. In the back of your mind, you’ve probably even thought about trying to make your ex jealous. When they see you with someone else, they’ll be tortured with grief and come running back to your arms. This always works.

Right?

You’ve watched hundreds of movies where the ex is seen at a fancy restaurant with a new, sexy date or partner. The hero or heroine rushes to the bathroom, runs out of the restaurant, or tries to act cool, calm, and unaffected when faced with this difficult and awkward scene. They go home and cry, or pick up their cell phone to call the ex, or worse—they come up with an equally preposterous scheme to try to make the other party jealous of them.

It's the oldest dirty trick in the book. Forget about it. Life isn’t Hollywood.

And, more importantly, if jealousy does occasionally work, it works for all the wrong reasons. It’s probably more about ego than true, healthy feelings. There are plenty of people who only want what they can’t have. If you really think about it, they really don’t want you, they just don’t want you to be with anyone else. It’s sad, selfish, and pathetic.

If you’re really trying to make someone jealous, it’s disrespectful and manipulative. How are you showing love or genuine care for another if you’re trying to make them feel bad? Where is the truth, honor, and respect in this type of action? What does it say about you and/or the relationship if you’re setting out to hurt your love interest, play with their feelings, and trick them into getting back with you. Feeling jealous when you see someone you still love with another is natural and honest. Manufacturing this scene for your own selfish gain is another thing altogether. If you win your ex back through manipulation, it’s only a question of time before you permanently mess things up.

If the shoe’s on the other foot, if your ex is parading around with a steady stream of ever-changing arm candy, avoid all contact. And, be willing to see this person for who they really are and move on. You want a relationship based on honesty, trust, and mutual respect. Trying to make someone jealous so you can get them back is unworthy of a true, healthy relationship.